Help Me: I’m Falling for an Officemate with a Girlfriend!
admin August 6th, 2007
We got our first e-mail from a reader with a romantic dilemma a couple of days ago. w00t! It’s a little bit long but you know how we girls get pretty heavy on the details. Hope we were able to help. Keep sending us those letters!
Before anything else I’d like to congratulate you guys for building this cool site. I want to share with you something that’s been bothering me for a year now. I ‘d like to give a bit of background of my situation by posting this letter I sent to a friend, then at the end (if you still have the energy to read the end of my super long letter) i would like to know your say on my situation.
Here goes my letter to a friend:
“I think God really wants me to read it so I will be reminded that i should not settle for less, that I am a child of God and he will take care of me. See, im going through a tough time right now. I never had a boyfriend, grew up believing that I should and must preserve myself for the man I will marry. So I didn’t fool around, my focus and goal was to finish my studies have a good job, be stable emotionally, financially, and etc., and when the right time comes I will eventually have a relationship with a man who respects me and will love my family and God.
I was able to keep my promise of preserving myself until I get married, was able to finish college, landed a great job with a wonderful company. But what bothers me right now and piercing my heart so much is that I have fallen in love (and so i thought) with my officemate. He’s all that I ever dreamed of my knight in shining armor. He’s sweet, have a strong faith in God and love’s he’s family so much especially his mom which made my heart beats for him more. I love guys who love their mom.
We had a nice time together we’re like instant best of friends.. he calls me his soulmate we have a lot in common. We can communicate by just looking at each others eyes. The only problem is he’s in a relationship for 4 years already. But his gf was leaving for Singapore when I met him and that was a year ago.
At first I thought it was just a petty crush but the feeling grew more everyday. I have never felt this way before with someone. It felt like he’s my first love.
I have been used to seeing him everyday, our daily chats, we laugh all the time. Everyday was like heaven with him. I feel like I had the best year ever in my life. But one day he announced that he will be leaving for Singapore a 9 day vacation trip to be with his gf and he also plans to try his luck there.
I feel like my whole world was shattered and I really don’t know how to cope with the hurt that I am feeling right now. One week from now and he’s leaving and honestly I don’t know how to face the reality that he may never come back. My heart bleeds right now. But I want to hold on to God’s word that he will take care of me.”
Fast forward to August, well the guy did come back guess tough luck finding a job in Singapore. All the while I thought that I have forgotten him I got used to not seeing him or hearing his voice. But after 2 weeks of complete bliss *boom he came back (sorry for the pathetic sound effect :D) Literally it felt like in the movies when I saw him no words are coming out of my mouth, knees trembling, heart beating so fast – seriously true, Im no fan of exaggerating.
My life went back to being so complicated. I tried so hard to avoid him because I know that it wont do both of us any good if we continue having that so called soulmate-special friendship. Also he’s the king of mixed signals. Urrgh..But everyday is like hell tried to come up with strategies I even borrowed a humongous headphone and put my volume to max while listening to any kind of music just so I could not hear him talk. Worst, I even thought of quitting my job.
Truth of the matter is, I’m still so much into him. As much as I want to deny it. I guess I can say that I’m torn between letting him go or continue my friendship with him knowing that I’m falling for him more everyday. Hahaha Im too stubborn to do the right thing, Im too proud to admit that I got hit by the love virus for the first time with the wrong person. Uggh..
Please I need to hear an advice not coming from my own head.